Consent
Consent is foundational at Indulgence. We don’t want anyone to get into a situation in which they are not entirely comfortable, and no one is ever expected to do anything they don’t want to. We begin with a consent circle where people share their boundaries and expectations and everyone in the group is expected to adhere to them.
Be aware however, that we consider coming to an Indulgence party to be an act of consent in itself. We offer a communal, group play experience and that’s what people should anticipate when they arrive. If that’s not what you are looking for, we kindly request you find a party that better fits your desires.
Gender balance
We are sympathetic to the challenges of single men in the lifestyle, especially as one of our hosts is a single man. At the same time, we appreciate the importance of an appropriate gender balance for the vibe we look to create, with not more than one or two extra men (or women) per party. As we take RSVPs we closely monitor the party’s gender balance and use that to dictate the number of single men (or single women!) we let in.
Health and safety
We take health very seriously and ask that everyone be regularly tested for STIs, request you don’t come to the party if you’re feeling under the weather, and have a hard condom-use requirement for penetrative sex between all non-primary partners. Read more in Health.
Manners
It’s unfortunate that we have to even say this, but everyone (ahem, gentlemen) should mind their manners, respect consent boundaries, and use common sense. Please don’t impose yourself on anyone in an unwelcome manner, either at a party or on a text thread. Sexy, consensual play is fun; repeated unwanted advances are out of line.
Contribute
Unlike most private parties, we don’t charge a door fee. But we do ask that everyone pitches in a little. This consists of bringing your own alcohol, a light appetizer, and condoms, and helping out with after-party clean up. It actually goes quite fast and can be fun! We also ask for occasional financial contributions to help cover our operating costs (but our annual ask is usually less than a single night at Twist!).